Laughter is what keeps relationships alive, and we got plenty of material. Gay guys are the funniest people in the world: no drama (for some), zingers for days and a hell of a lot of opinions. But to keep the magic alive long term, we need to up our strategy. Here are a few ideas:
#1) Do pranks together.
A couple that pranks together, stays together. Of course there is the oldest one in the book: pulling a friend’s pants down. But there are so many you can think of. For example: prank calls are always fun, scaring people on Halloween is great, going caroling together dressed as elves is a riot (these are all things I’ve done by the way).
#2) Reminisce often.
Talk about old memories that crack you up. If they made you belly laugh then, they’re going to make you belly laugh even more now. Even more, it will spark a part of your brain that will reignite an old feeling. Look through pictures, talk about legendary relationship moments, and never underestimate the power of the inside joke.
#3) Play sports on opposite teams.
You can play sports on the same team if you like (who doesn’t love it when our man rallies behind us), but trust me it’s way more fun when you’re opposite each other—not only because you get to tackle, but because one of you is gonna win, which means you can have secret “naughty” bets you can cash in later that night.
#4) Keep your own sense of humor.
It doesn’t matter how long you’re together, keeping a sense of identity is crucial. Your sense of humor is important in maintaining the integrity of your relationship. Be the same person he fell in love with, always. It’s easy to grow on each other after a while, and as a result, start becoming the same person—don’t let it happen.
#5) Take a dance class together just for the f*ck of it.
Dance classes can be embarrassing when you’re by yourself. Having your man there gives you freedom to let loose because no matter what, there is at least one person who’s got your back no matter how ridiculous you’re shaking that tail feather.
#6) Don’t take everything personal.
The one killer of comedy is political correctness. By that I mean overly sensitive people. We know when our man crosses a line. For all the other times he tiptoes around it, for God’s sake let it go. He’s our boyfriend—he’s not intending on hurting us at all. If he is, he’s an asshole and should be pushed out the door anyway.
#7) Change the routine every so often.
I love a good Netflix and chill night (don’t get me wrong), but you do not want to get complacent. Change up the nightly routine every once in a while. Never should you start morphing into an old married couple—believe me, that will come once you get the kids and grandkids. Be active while you can!
#8) Never fight for his attention, unless it’s essential.
Listen, he’s yours already. Fighting for his attention is always going to be awkward for him and it takes the funny right out of the night. It becomes about him seeing to your feelings. Unless he’s purposely ignoring you or is getting distracted by some home wrecking party boy who has a thing for stealing boyfriends, keep it cool.
#9) Mix new cocktails together.
In fact, make a bar in your home together. Have a whole set. Make new cocktails—either Google them or invent some of your own. It’ll be fun. When you discover the world’s most hidden gem of a cocktail, Hallelujah! If the drink you made sucks, hey, that’s even funnier.
#10) Snapchat the sh*t out of each other.
I hate Snapchat, but when it’s with my man I love it. Those stupid icon things with the rainbow and the scary face, I originally thought were ridiculous, now I think it is hilarious. Friendly tip: nude snapchats are fantastic to send to your man at work, but only when you cover your bits with a rainbow.