It’s not hard to have a voice, but it is hard finding the courage to use it. One of the major reasons people today are emotionally unbalanced is because they don’t know what they stand for. They’ve spent most of their lives conforming to others that they’ve forsaken themselves. Instead of using their voice, they’ve let someone else do the talking. Eventually they become lost.
This idea is prevalent for the LGBT community in many ways.
A lot of gay guys are scared to rock the boat in their personal lives. It’s easier to please society, our parents, and our friends by going with the flow of things. We think that becoming an ideal “man” is the only way we will be accepted. The more we hide our true selves, the less of a target we’ll be. But is it worth the sacrifice?
Fighting for our voice is not only a human right, it’s a choice everyone has to make to become whole. Countless of people around the world continue to be suppressed by governments; many of them will never know what it’s like to have a voice — until they see someone who does.
Speaking up for your life is a learned habit, a skill. As humans, we’re all born with an impulse to survive. Everyone wants to prevent extinction and we’ll do basically anything to achieve it. As a result, we are naturally attracted to groups that are likely to survive, i.e. “popular” groups.
It is natural for us to follow because we all want to survive. The last thing we want is to be associated with groups or people who lack the will to survive. This is why most of us would rather do what’s popular than what’s right.
To lead, actually, is to think beyond our human capabilities and recognize we have already survived! We’re here — rulers of the world. We no longer need to worry about going extinct, except for within ourselves.
These impulses are leftover from our ancestors, whose constant need for survival managed to keep us alive. But in today’s world, that impulse tends to get in the way — it’s at the root of our fears with each other, our need to assume the worst, and a recurring habit to blame others rather than being introspective.
Society has brainwashed us into thinking we have to be better than everyone else instead of growing as individuals. While we might not care about being the best at one particular thing, we do care about being better at it than someone else. It’s about winning the game of survival.
We want to be acknowledged, especially within our community. Many LGBT youths have given up the battle, and have willingly become isolated from peers: “If no one’s going to accept me, I guess I’m a freak and don’t belong anywhere.” Because it’s in our nature to judge, we use opportunities like this to enhance our value.
People enjoy watching others draw themselves into a pit of despair because it means they’re better off — “Phew! At least I’m not that bad.” Rather than helping each other up, we push each other down. As a result, we backtrack progress not only as a community, but as a species.
We found our voice by showing others how loud we can be — that’s how we’ve become immortal! Instead of standing back and watching each other fail, we have to look our fears and impulses in the face, and realize we’re worth the battle. We survive by building — not by destroying.
There is no one else in this world who can speak for you, except you. Not your parents, friends, children, coworkers, or bosses. They’re all busy trying to speak for their own plights. With so many fingers pointing at you, it’s always better find your own direction.
The only direction taking us to new and fulfilling journeys is the one we set out for ourselves. Finding our voice, and using it, will bring us all home. We might get scars from time to time, but trust me they heal much faster than emotional scars we’d receive by letting others define our journey.
Courage is food for the soul.
Committing to someone else’s ideas is a habit too hard to break. You’re likely to forget who it is you really are. When you can make it through the waves of social pressure, you rid yourself of all the years to self-investigate. Why? Because you know who you are, and always have.
The only way to do it is to speak up. Stop being afraid to say, “No. I’m better than that!”