Month: January 2022
Positive Thinking
SELF-IMPROVEMENT
Gay 20-Somethings Need to Get Over Their Quarter-Life Crisis
If youth and beauty were things we cared about, you’d think 25-year olds would stop bitching already. But in today’s world everyone has to have something to complain about, even if the things we complain about are petty and foolish. The trouble is we’ve all been there. I was there not too long ago. When […]
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Positive Thinking
SELF-IMPROVEMENT
Be Okay With Being Imperfect
The most devastating realization I ever had in my life was when I came clean and admitted I wasn’t perfect. I looked in the mirror and realized all the years of pretending like I had my sh*t together, trying to convince people I was worthy of their attention, and hoping that someday my smile would […]
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I LOVE Myself
SELF-IMPROVEMENT
How I Made Peace with Being ‘Too Sensitive’
I fell into a state of depression a few days ago. I did what I always do when I tread rock bottom: sneak into the shower and allow the water droplets to wash away my tears. It’s a way of hiding my own feelings of sadness from myself because deep down I don’t want it to be […]
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Positive Thinking
SELF-IMPROVEMENT
The Secret for Not Letting Toxic People Affect Your Happiness
You exist on your own. The things that people do, say or think don’t need to take anything away from us. They can exist on their own, just as we can. You see, all of us carry a uniqueness no one can tarnish. We know what it is because we’ve felt it before—our sense of humor, […]
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Positive Thinking
SELF-IMPROVEMENT
Look at Where You’re Going, Not at Where You Are
It’s easy to feel worthless when things aren’t happening as fast or as promising as we expect. We work hard, play hard, and pray for destiny to reveal itself, but life pans out in unexpected ways. The road ahead will always be unwritten. Every last one of us can say we aren’t where we want to […]
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Positive Thinking
SELF-IMPROVEMENT
It Pays to be Sarcastic in the Gay Community
I don’t need to tell you the gay community is full of sarcastic assholes — I’m one of them! There’s nothing wrong with bringing out your inner Miranda Priestly from time to time, especially when there’s no other escape from the stupidity surrounding you. But for all the people out there with their patience at the […]
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Heartache
LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS
Why Depression Won’t Stop Me From Finding Love
It’s an effort nowadays to find a neutral state of being. My heart is constantly being tugged and dragged to the ground by an invisible force, which often goes unnoticed until I’m pinned with grief. The cause is always unknown but one thing is for sure: I have to fight like hell every single day. […]
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Heartache
LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS
Right Man, Wrong Time
Time is one of the most crucial things in life. We’re enslaved by it unwillingly, and more often than not we have to figure out a way to make it work to our benefit. But at the end of the day, time is meant to expire. When we meet the right man at the wrong […]
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Crush
LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS
The Difference Between Momentary Love & True Love
Impulsive love exists in a fantasy land, whereas true love exists in reality. A feeling can disappear just as quickly as it came. In a single day we have thousands of feelings, but underneath it all there is an absolute truth that defines them. True love isn’t what we see in movies, though we try desperately to mimic […]
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Dating Advice
LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS
Stop Begging for a Man’s Love if He’s Not Giving It in Return
In my household we were told that love is the measure of our value. We are’t judged by how much we love, but by how much we’re loved by others. Now that I’m older I’m starting to question this logic. For the longest time I spread myself short trying to find love. I begged for it from friends, family, lovers, […]
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