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Editor's Picks
Well-regarded products across ten everyday categories — each with who it suits and what to keep in mind.
Men's Skincare Essentials Researched pick
CeraVe Hydrating Facial Cleanser
Best for: Normal to dry or easily irritated skin
A non-foaming lotion cleanser that cleans without leaving skin tight — an easy first step for a new routine.
- Lotion texture, no foam
- Ceramides and hyaluronic acid
- Fragrance-free
Why it works
- Gentle enough for daily AM and PM use
- Widely available in large sizes
Keep in mind
- No lather, which some people dislike
- May need a second cleanse to remove heavy sunscreen
Our take: A dependable, no-fuss choice if your skin is dry or reactive.
Beard & Hair Care Researched pick
Philips Norelco OneBlade
Best for: Stubble, short beards and clean edges
A hybrid tool that trims, edges and shaves, with a replaceable blade.
- Trim, edge and shave in one tool
- Replaceable blade
- Wet or dry use
Why it works
- Easy to use for beginners
- Compact for travel
Keep in mind
- Blades need replacing periodically
- Not as close as a traditional razor
Our take: The easiest way to keep stubble and short beards tidy.
Fragrance Researched pick
Acqua di Giò Eau de Toilette
Best for: Fresh, warm-weather and office wear
A long-running fresh aquatic fragrance with citrus notes — easy to wear almost anywhere.
Everyday Style Researched pick
Levi's 511 Slim Fit Jeans
Best for: Slimmer builds who want a modern, tailored leg
A slim fit through the hip and thigh that sits below the waist — a capsule-wardrobe staple.
Sneakers Researched pick
adidas Stan Smith
Best for: A clean, minimal everyday sneaker
The low-top tennis classic. Pairs with jeans, chinos and shorts.
Fitness Equipment Researched pick
Bowflex SelectTech 552 Adjustable Dumbbells
Best for: Strength training at home in a small space
Each dumbbell adjusts from 5 to 52.5 lb with a dial, replacing a rack of fixed weights.
Travel Accessories Researched pick
Osprey Farpoint 40 Travel Pack
Best for: One-bag trips of a few days to a few weeks
A 40-litre travel pack with a suitcase-style opening and a padded laptop sleeve.
Tech Accessories Researched pick
Sony WH-1000XM5 Headphones
Best for: Flights, commutes and focused work
Over-ear wireless headphones with active noise cancelling and long battery life.
Bedroom & Home Essentials Researched pick
Hatch Restore 2 Sunrise Alarm
Best for: A calmer bedtime and a gentler wake-up
A bedside light and sound machine that simulates sunrise to wake you gradually.
Lifestyle Books Researched pick
The Velvet Rage by Alan Downs
Best for: Readers interested in shame, identity and growing up gay
A widely discussed book on how shame can shape gay men's lives, and ways to move past it.
Researched picks are based on specifications, ingredients, expert sources and verified owner feedback — not hands-on testing. We never list prices because they change; check Amazon for current details.
Side by Side
Which everyday cleanser suits your skin?
Three widely available, fragrance-free cleansers. They do the same job in different ways — here is how to choose.
| CeraVe Hydrating Facial Cleanser | CeraVe Foaming Facial Cleanser | La Roche-Posay Toleriane Hydrating Gentle Cleanser | |
|---|---|---|---|
| Texture | Lotion, no foam | Gel to light foam | Cream, low lather |
| Best for | Normal to dry skin | Normal to oily skin | Sensitive and dry skin |
| Key ingredients | Ceramides, hyaluronic acid | Ceramides, niacinamide, hyaluronic acid | Ceramide-3, niacinamide, thermal water |
| Main difference | Most hydrating feel of the three | Fresh, "squeaky clean" finish | Designed for reactive skin |
| Advantages | Gentle enough for daily AM and PM use; Widely available in large sizes | Removes oil and sweat effectively; Simple, inexpensive staple | Very gentle feel; Fragrance-free |
| Limitations | No lather, which some people dislike; May need a second cleanse to remove heavy sunscreen | Can feel drying on very dry skin | Costs more than drugstore alternatives; Minimal lather |
| Link | View on Amazon | View on Amazon | View on Amazon |
CeraVe Hydrating Facial Cleanser
- Texture
- Lotion, no foam
- Best for
- Normal to dry skin
- Key ingredients
- Ceramides, hyaluronic acid
- Main difference
- Most hydrating feel of the three
- Limitations
- No lather, which some people dislike; May need a second cleanse to remove heavy sunscreen
CeraVe Foaming Facial Cleanser
- Texture
- Gel to light foam
- Best for
- Normal to oily skin
- Key ingredients
- Ceramides, niacinamide, hyaluronic acid
- Main difference
- Fresh, "squeaky clean" finish
- Limitations
- Can feel drying on very dry skin
La Roche-Posay Toleriane Hydrating Gentle Cleanser
- Texture
- Cream, low lather
- Best for
- Sensitive and dry skin
- Key ingredients
- Ceramide-3, niacinamide, thermal water
- Main difference
- Designed for reactive skin
- Limitations
- Costs more than drugstore alternatives; Minimal lather
Quick rule: oily skin → foaming; dry skin → hydrating lotion; reactive skin → the gentlest cream you can find.
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