How I Made Peace with Being ‘Too Sensitive’
I fell into a state of depression a few days ago. I did what I always do when I tread rock bottom: sneak…
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It Pays to Be Sarcastic in the Gay Community
I don’t need to tell you the gay community is full of sarcastic assholes — I’m one of them!There’s nothing wrong with bringing…
Always Fight For Your Voice. You’re Worth The Scars.
It’s not hard to have a voice, but it is hard finding the courage to use it. One of the major reasons…
Why the Bully Always Wins
We’re all born without a compass. If we’re lucky, we are instilled with great parenting or friends that direct us towards a…
The Difference Between Image & Self-Esteem
There’s never a dull moment in a gay guy’s imagination, but sometimes our imaginations can become our greatest enemy. For decades, we…
Are Gay Guys Becoming Man Children?
Gay culture is constructed in a way that almost prevents us from growing up. When I ventured into West Hollywood in my…
A Gay Guy’s Guide to Self-Defense
Self-defense is something rarely spoken about in the gay community. While we soak in countless of hate crimes on the news domestically…
Look at Where You’re Going, Not at Where You Are
It’s easy to feel worthless when things aren’t happening as fast or as promising as we expect. We work hard, play hard, and…
Be Okay With Being Imperfect
The most devastating realization I ever had in my life was when I came clean and admitted I wasn’t perfect. I looked…
The Rise of HIV Paranoia Among Gay Guys
We all fear what we don’t know, and many gay guys today don’t know squat about HIV. Since the invention of hookup…
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The Velvet Rage by Alan Downs
Best for: Readers interested in shame, identity and growing up gay
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Atomic Habits by James Clear
Best for: Building routines that actually stick
A practical book on small, repeatable changes — useful for grooming, fitness and sleep routines alike.