It Pays to Be Sarcastic in the Gay Community
I don’t need to tell you the gay community is full of sarcastic assholes — I’m one of them!There’s nothing wrong with bringing…
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Always Fight For Your Voice. You’re Worth The Scars.
It’s not hard to have a voice, but it is hard finding the courage to use it. One of the major reasons…
Why the Bully Always Wins
We’re all born without a compass. If we’re lucky, we are instilled with great parenting or friends that direct us towards a…
The Difference Between Image & Self-Esteem
There’s never a dull moment in a gay guy’s imagination, but sometimes our imaginations can become our greatest enemy. For decades, we…
Are Gay Guys Becoming Man Children?
Gay culture is constructed in a way that almost prevents us from growing up. When I ventured into West Hollywood in my…
Look at Where You’re Going, Not at Where You Are
It’s easy to feel worthless when things aren’t happening as fast or as promising as we expect. We work hard, play hard, and…
Be Okay With Being Imperfect
The most devastating realization I ever had in my life was when I came clean and admitted I wasn’t perfect. I looked…
The Secret for Not Letting Toxic People Affect Your Happiness
You exist on your own. The things that people do, say or think don’t need to take anything away from us. They…
Gay 20-Somethings Need to Get Over Their Quarter-Life Crisis
If youth and beauty were things we cared about, you’d think 25-year olds would stop bitching already. But in today’s world everyone…
I’m 50 Pounds Overweight and Still Confident in Dating
Gay dating culture can be brutal about bodies. Scroll through any dating app and you will see the same message repeated: one…
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Atomic Habits by James Clear
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